“Life… Next Contestant Please”


By Joshua Handlarsky



Growing up, I was granted the fortune of seeing my grandparents almost every day, as I lived down the block from them. My grandmother liked to play cards, especially “rummy” as my grandfather made his witty and often bizarre jokes that people loved him so much for. After finishing up a piece my grandma’s delicious, homemade sponge cake, we would move to the living room and get ready for… “Jeopardy”, followed by “Wheel of Fortune”. When I visited in the morning we would watch “The Price is Right” and “Let’s Make a Deal”. I cherish these memories so much! Thinking about it, I have come to realize that there are many lessons and themes that can be applied from ‘game shows’ to the way that people live life on a daily basis.

Ding, ding, ding. “You are the winner… of a Brand-New Life!”. “Thank you so much…” said no baby ever. How does a baby show his or her gratitude for their “winnings”? By experiencing everything that this world has to offer; without any biases or preconceived notions of what to expect. So then, let me ask you: What changes us from beings who can experience joy by seeing something as simple as others making “silly faces”, to believing that joy is some phenomenon that can only be sparked by external factors? Stop letting others dictate why, when, and how you feel. Take control, and find that “inner baby” that is deeply embedded in all of us.

“I will take work from nine-to-five for forty thousand please”; while secretly wishing that I can do just about anything else. This is a way of living that has become an accepted norm for many people. Upon asking a peer, who deep down shares the desire to escape this reality, how they feel, they answer “it’s just the way life works”. Really! Whose choices, mistakes, successes, fears, and doubts shaped this “reality”? It is in this sense that we are most like the creator, forces, energies, powers, God, call it what you will…, but our ability to make free-will choices are what creates our reality. Misusing our greatest power to choose, is what jeopardizes our reality and we can doubly jeopardize our reality by comparing ourselves to others.

How fortunate, that we are to be able to wake up everyday and start fresh, a new day to make choices that are in line with the vision of what we want our reality to look like. If someone offered you that ability as a new born who was capable of understanding the “terms and conditions”, the only thing you would have to do, is be a little better than the previous day; would you want to make that deal? I would like to think that you would, it sounds great. Here is the catch-22: we have that deal set in stone. Every human being placed on this planet has that deal! Challenge yourself to get better every day and you will start to rediscover the truth, what you innately know, that you were put here for a reason.



Reasoning is an essential, vital process that is built into us as human beings. This helps us make logical decisions but there comes a point where it can backfire and cause “paralysis by analysis”.  If there is a certain product that sparks your desire to purchase it, what makes the price right for you? There is usually no contemplation that takes place, you just buy it! Supermarkets use the psychology behind this mode of thinking, to set up “impulse buys” for customers which are strategically placed near the checkout register which does not allot you the time to contemplate the decision and almost always leads you to purchase the item, regardless of whether you really need it. So then, what makes us over contemplate doing the things that we know will yield the best results for our goals? It seems we are not taking the “path of least resistance” when it comes to shaping our future.

Stop wasting your precious and limited brain power to make decisions that really do not matter in the grand scheme of things. There has been a substantial amount of research done which reveals that as the day progresses and we make more decisions, our ability to make choices that are aligned with our best interests, diminishes. Many people therefore, they can eat healthily all day, come home after a rough day at work and chow down on whatever they desire. A Term to describe this theory is called “decision fatigue”. It’s why people like Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Steve jobs and others, who are so driven by their purpose and goal, wear the same clothes day in and day out (not literally, that would be gross) because it’s too trivial of a decision to waste any time thinking about.

Instead of living each day like we are spinning a wheel and wherever it lands is what we do, plan tomorrow’s work the night before. Be unapologetically precise with how you spend your most valuable resource; your time! Do you want to build wealth in all aspects of life? Here is the secret: stop living life with the “wheel spinning mentality”. Stop thinking that you just have bad fortune; life is not a cookie-cutter “one-size-fits all” manuscript. You are the actor, producer, director, writer and editor of a “once-in-a-lifetime” movie that only you can release. Take advantage of the incredible opportunity that many of us tend to take for granted. Be unique and let your light shine bright. Be in constant competition with yourself for you are one-of-a-kind, a rare gem, with limitless potential.



Joshua Handlarsky

Joshua Handlarsky is a personal development coach. Born and raised in Brooklyn New York, he has had an unconventional route regarding a “normal” life path. Where he comes from many like to say, “forget about it,” he likes to “be about it.” He has acquired a vast amount of knowledge about health and wellness, business and wealth, and living with vitality! He has implemented this knowledge to his own life, and tested many theories and ideas thoroughly, to understand what works best.



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