Become an Outlier:
Outmaneuver the Tribe
By Gary Z. McGee
“The more neatly you fit into society, the less free you actually are.” ~Naval Ravikant
True freedom lies in embracing your unique path, especially when it diverges from the crowd.
Becoming an outlier is a deliberate choice to prioritize personal freedom over societal approval. By understanding the tribe’s influence, cultivating self-awareness, building courage, navigating strategically, and living authentically, you can outmaneuver conformity and create a life of impact and deep fulfillment. Let’s break it down…
Understanding the Tribe’s Grip:
“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.” ~Bhagavad Gita
To become an outlier, you must first recognize the invisible forces that tether you to the “tribe,” the collective web of societal norms, expectations, and groupthink that shapes how you think, act, and live. In short: you must recondition your cultural conditioning.
Reconditioning your cultural conditioning is the vital first leap of courage that must be taken to live a life on purpose, with purpose.
Cultural conditioning is the first “beast” that must fall at the sword of your outlier heroism. It either breaks against your courage, or it will break your ability to be courageous. This is because cultural conditioning is a phantom. It’s a cartoon in the brain. It’s the illusion of comfort, security, and truth. It’s a blinding light that is magnified and mirrored by the status quo.
It is your heroic duty to diffract this blinding light. Otherwise, you will never see anything more than what society wants you to see. Otherwise, the “Plato’s Cave” of culture will have you constantly mesmerized by its shadows. The first step to outmaneuvering it is awareness and recognizing when you’re acting to appease others rather than honoring your own values.
Cultivating Self-Awareness to Break Free:
“I want to keep smashing myself until I am whole.” ~Elias Canetti
Self-awareness is the cornerstone of becoming an outlier—it’s the process of uncovering your authentic values, desires, and strengths, and recognizing where the tribe’s norms have shaped your choices. Cultivating self-awareness transforms the codependent caterpillar of yourself into an independent butterfly, empowering you to break free from conformity and live on your own terms elevated above the battlefield of the human condition.
Becoming an outlier requires self-awareness, self-interrogation, and self-overcoming to pull off. You must become hyperaware that the Self is masks all the way down perceiving delusions all the way up. Such awareness will give you the ability to question yourself to the nth degree.
The best method to use to keep you ahead of the curve is archetypal psychology (See: The Archetypal Path to Getting Your Shit Together). Archetypes provide a powerful way to understand the human mind. They map out the multilayered manifestations of the mindscape. Because the human mind is anything but singular. It is multifariously plural.
From individuation to self-actualization to self-transcendence and beyond into self-overcoming, archetypal psychology becomes an existential methodology that you can use to further develop yourself as an outlier.
Self-overcoming then becomes a chisel for the hardened beliefs within you. You use it to humble yourself, to destroy your delusions, to unsettle your settled mind, to shock your chakras, and to consistently recondition your cultural conditioning.
Building the Courage to Defy Cultural Norms:
“The word “courage” should be reserved to characterize the man or woman who leaves the infantile sanctuary of the mass mind.” ~Sam Keen
Don’t be a typical run-of-the-mill inlier; be an atypical outside-the-box outlier. Creatively reorient your orientation. Diverge from the social milieux. Outfox the orthodox. It’s all yours for the overcoming.
Defying norms requires courage because it risks disrupting your sense of belonging. Fitting in often comes at the cost of personal freedom. Courage is the bridge between knowing your authentic self and living it, enabling you to prioritize your truth over the tribe’s “approval.”
Courage doesn’t mean fearlessness; it means acting despite fear. Every outlier, from historical figures like Martin Luther King Jr. and Mahatma Gandhi to modern innovators like Malala Yousafzai and Elon Musk, faced fear but chose to act anyway. Their courage wasn’t innate—it was built through deliberate practice and a commitment to their values. By developing this muscle, you can navigate the discomfort of defying norms and unlock the freedom to live on your terms.
Shift your focus from external approval to internal alignment. Ask yourself: Does this choice reflect my values, even if others don’t understand? By reframing rejection as a marker of originality, you can transform fear into motivation, seeing pushbacks as evidence you’re breaking free from the tribe’s grip.
Being an outlier means cultivating courage often in the face of cultural pressures to conform. Nonconform anyway. Outliers realize that life is a risk. They embrace that risk with courage and fervor. Where conformists fear making waves, outliers relish in it—realizing that sometimes you must rock the boat to keep it afloat.
Mastering the Art of Strategic Nonconformity:
“The opposite of courage is not cowardice, it’s conformity.” ~Rollo May
Becoming an outlier doesn’t mean rejecting society entirely, it means navigating it with intention, using its systems to amplify your unique vision while staying true to your values.
Strategic nonconformity is the art of balancing individuality with influence, defying norms where it matters most while leveraging societal structures to achieve your goals. Conformity is the absence of courage. Therefore, mastering strategic nonconformity requires the bravery to challenge the tribe’s expectations without isolating yourself from its resources.
Strategic nonconformity is about being deliberate in how you defy the tribe. It’s not rebellion for rebellion’s sake but a calculated approach to living authentically while harnessing society’s tools—networks, platforms, markets—to amplify your influence. The goal is to create freedom and impact without burning bridges unnecessarily.
Rollo May’s insight frames this as an act of courage: conforming is the path of least resistance, but strategic nonconformity requires the bravery to carve your own way while navigating the tribe’s rules. By mastering this balance, you can outmaneuver the tribe, turning its structures into springboards for your unique contributions.
In a world full of comfort junkies and status quo sycophants, embrace the discomfort of nonconformity. Stay ahead of the curve by realizing that everything is on the curve. Realize that if things are too comfortable there can be no change. Embrace discomfort as a means toward discovering true growth and healthy change.
The folly of conformists comes from believing they have an answer for everything. The wisdom of nonconformists comes from having a question for everything.
Realize that strategic questions are vital for progressive evolution. When a so-called answer becomes too conservative, question it, lest it become entrenched, old-fashioned, or outdated. Lest it become orthodox, you must be willing to challenge it with your outlier unorthodox nature.
Living as an Outlier for Lasting Impact:
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson
Living as an outlier is not a one-time act of defiance but a lifelong commitment to authenticity, growth, and impact. It’s about sustaining your unique path, resisting the pull of conformity, and creating a legacy that inspires others to break free from the tribe’s constraints. As Emerson’s quote suggests, staying true to yourself in a world that demands conformity is a profound achievement—one that requires continuous evolution, a redefinition of success, and a ripple effect that can empower others.
Outmaneuver the Tribe for the tribe’s sake. Outflank the Group so that the group doesn’t get caught up in its own groupthink. Keep ahead of the curve to persistently recondition cultural conditioning. While the masses are distracted playing their inferior finite games (governed by written laws), play the superior Infinite Game (governed by unwritten laws) and astonish them all.
Outliers don’t just break free from the tribe once—they keep questioning, adapting, and reinventing themselves to avoid falling into new forms of dogma. The tribe’s norms are ever shifting, and even nonconformist movements can become rigid over time.
To remain an outlier, question your own beliefs (self-interrogate). Regularly revisit your assumptions, even those you’ve formed as an outlier. Seek new perspectives: Engage with ideas outside your comfort zone through books, diverse conversations, and travel. This will keep your thinking fresh and prevent stagnation. Iterate your path: As you grow, your North Star may evolve. Periodically reassess your mission to ensure your actions reflect your outlier values.
Continuous evolution ensures you remain free from both external and self-imposed constraints, embodying the freedom Naval Ravikant describes.
Embrace being a beacon of hope for some and despair for others. The Ripple Effect of living authentically as an outlier doesn’t just liberate you, it gives others permission to do the same even as it scares the shit out of others. Your courage to defy norms can create a ripple effect, inspiring your community, colleagues, or even strangers to question the tribe’s rules.
Don’t be afraid to seem sinister to conformists. Have the courage to be Fire. Burn all the moths if you must. Those who are fire will see how your fire is a boon. And although moths may get burned along the way, they may also discover the Phoenix hidden within them.
To amplify your ripple effect, be intentional about sharing your story. Spread the fire that lights all beacons. Authenticity resonates, and even small acts of vulnerability can inspire others to reject “invulnerable” conformity
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Image source: Civilized Society by Alec Huxley
About the Author: Gary Z McGee, a former Navy Intelligence Specialist turned philosopher, is the author of Birthday Suit of God and The Looking Glass Man. His works are inspired by the great philosophers of the ages and his wide-awake view of the modern world.
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